I looked around at the mess before me. No matter that I had three children aged 13, 11, 9 at the time. No matter that my husband was working over fifty hours a week, and packing his office, and going out of town for his ministry job.And forget the fact that I had no family within 100 miles. Oh-and throw in two dogs and three cats and I was pushed to my limit trying to pack and clean the house on my own.
Just then my phone rang and my friend Rene simply said,” I am on my way over with food, packing tape, and cleaning supplies.” And I breathed a huge sigh of relief.
We can’t move well without help. We need one another! If you neglect relationships , you will be carrying far more than furniture and clothes to your next home. You will carry anger, resentment, pain, and other unwanted stowaways.
Here are a few things I have learned along the way that have helped me. I hope you find something useful for dealing with your move.
- Keep a list A list of things that you need help with, items needed, etc. If a friend or family member asks how they can help, look at your list and let them.
- Reach out to others Don’t be afraid to ask people to help you or recommend someone to you. During one move, I found a fabulous woman who professionally cleaned my house for $50 simply by asking others for suggestions. That was worth its weight in gold.
- Have a friend or two you can call on for emotional support This is a toughie for me because of moving so much. But I have a few friends I have known for many years from online homeschool and exercise groups. We email and text and lift one another up. It’s a true blessing.
- Communicate If we aren’t honest with friends and family, things build up and we end up yelling over running out of bubble wrap. 😉 Talk and listen…a lot.
- Accept invitations or issue some yourself It’s so easy to think you are too busy to go to dinner, a party, etc. Saying goodbye is vital to moving on after you have moved out
The last of the Moving On series will look at what to do after you move and the dust settles. In the meantime, leave me you comments and suggestions for keeping your relationships strong during moving and stressful times.